Become Your Own Matchmaker 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate

If you’ve ever found yourself picking off your nail polish, sitting in your sweats with an empty carton of Ben & Jerry’s, wondering, “Where are all the good men, and why isn’t a gorgeous one standing shirtless in my kitchen mixing me up a pomegranate mojito?” I hate to tell you this, but it’s your own fault. Not to worry — I’m here to help you make that fantasy a reality, with one major addition: you’ll be sipping that mojito with a big, glittering diamond ring on your left hand.

Sounds too good to be true? It isn’t. As a third-generation matchmaker and the president of one of the world’s most elite dating services — the Millionaire’s Club — I’ve put myself in the enviable position of being friend, confi dante, and relationship counselor to men and women the world over. I know what the good guys want in a wife, and what sends them screaming into the night. Now I’m sharing their secrets with you.

I’ve compiled my best tried-and-true advice and I’m going to tell you the things that even your best friend doesn’t have the courage to break to you. If you follow my formula, the man of your dreams will appear in your life, and you can be in a committed, monogamous relationship with him in less than a year. Get ready — I’m about to show you how to make all your relationship dreams come true.

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5 Stars My Dating Bible
This is my dating Bible. This book gives you the information, tools, and formula how to survive yourself and life in the dating world. Patti gives it to you straight up with no bologna and even some humor! I am following her advice. Although, I am still in Step 1: Dating Detox, the rest of the book maps out dating etiquette from start to finish. Included are also some simple exercises to help you discover what characteristics are important to you in a mate. Furthermore, there are excellent descriptions of different types of people (men), how to identify them, and they are listed by good and bad traits. Other good reads to have on the shelf: He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys and It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken: The Smart Girl’s Break-Up BuddyBest wishes everyone!

3 Stars Good book
I enjoy watching Patti on The Millionaire Matchmaker. That’s why I purchased her book. For the most part, the book was good. I disagree with some of what she says, however.

5 Stars Every woman needs to read this one
If you feel left out of the loop about the way men feel, then get this book. It may do you a world of good just knowing how they tick. I really liked learning all the nuances and insights and thought this book was an invaluable tool for my dating life. A great read, overall, as well as Attract Men Like Bees to Honey: The Magic Formula For Putting Him Under Your Spell

5 Stars A simple game plan for dating

I really enjoyed this book. It’s realistic, easy to read, cut to the chase, and informative. You may already know a few of the suggestions, and some, you just might not like, but its plain to see, that most of the information laid out in this book could only be obtained from an experienced matchmaking professional.I also like how the book takes you from pre-dating, to finding a date, to dating, to negotiating the ring. There are more steps, but I just wanted to point out that it covers the entire relationship up until marriage.

4 Stars Great on-line dating resource!
Book was very good. Very good instructional guide. Not sure if I agree with everything, coming from an author who hasn’t been succesful in landing a mate herself. But I found the on-line dating rules and qualifing the buyer to be very informative and well written. Sad part is, the majority of single woman, don’t meet her criteria for joining her service. However, many good tips and I liked the book so much, I purchased a few copies for my friends as gifts.

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If Im So Wonderful Why Am I Still Single Ten Strategies That Will Change Your Love Life Forever

Susan Page’s bestselling relationship book has been translated into 18 languages, is being read in more than 25 countries, and its mass-market edition has sold more than 158,000 copies. At the heart of this book are Page’s famed 10 strategies for readers to better self-understanding and ultimately a fulfilling relationship. Filled with revealing anecdotes, case studies, and quizzes, the book’s down-to- earth guidance will appeal to everyone who devoured books like Mars and Venus on a Date and Getting the Love You Want, and anyone who wants a fulfilling intimate relationship.

“Behold a wonder–a romantic self-help book that is intelligent, upbeat, practical, useful, winning, and even wise.” –Kirkus Reviews

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5 Stars Not to be missed.
This is a seriously good read with one cavet–you have to be ready for it. And by this I mean, it’s got some hard truths about single life and wanting to get into a relationship. Overall, it’s one of the better books on the subject I have read. Also good:How to Break Your Addiction to a Person.

5 Stars the only book you will ever need when searching for a person to marry
This is one of a kind book on finding the relationship for the rest of your life. The author provides abundant, convincing advice in a warm, positive tone.

I consider myself emotionally mature, and my friends and family see me as a wise, compassionate, and sensible (whilst amateur) relationship counselor, but still, this book has taught me a great deal about choosing a partner for life. The advice for setting your standards very high and rationale behind it are right on, and the detailed guidance on spotting and then fleeing from commitmentphobes is priceless and will save you months, if not years, of lingering in not-good-enough relationships.

I now feel guilt-free, no matter how hard it could be emotionally, ending a relationship in which I am not treated with the utmost love, attention, and care I give and also deserve to receive, or one I know would not meet my life goals (marrying and having children) or crucial lifestyle preferences, or that causes emotional pain because the other person is not fully on board. The book is worth every penny.

1 Star Get the feeling you’ve never been to you?
Hi single ladies in your 30s. Yeah you. I’m here today to save you some money and let you know why you’re still single. For FREE! Hold my hand and let’s get in the time machine and go back about 10-15 years ago to those early 20s, shall we? You remember those years, don’t you? When you could fit into those skinny jeans. When you had every guy in the world trying every dorky line in the world to get into said jeans. I bet you do. Remember your standards from back in the day? You know… that you wouldn’t date any guys your age because… well … they don’t have much money…they had no direction … etc. You went for the older guys in their 30s because they were more established … had a little more success … had a little more money. Except there was one little problem. You were decent looking, but you were no Giselle Bundchen. You had some laughs with the older guys you dated … took a couple of weekend trips to Key West. But they never took it to the next level, did they? What happened there? They moved on, right? They moved on to your peers that were just a little better looking than you. And now … surprise, surprise… you’re still single. Now those guys your age that you blew off don’t seem quite so dorky now, do they? They kind of came into their own. But … they’re not returning your calls either. What are they up to? Oh yeah, they’re dating your younger sisters now, right? Well, that’s not entirely accurate. They do call you on occasion. At your age and level of desperation, you’re sometimes more amenable to doing things in the “garden of earthly delights” that your pickier younger sisters refuse to do. You’re doing all kinds of crazy things that you never imagined you’d ever consent to do. You kid yourself and say you’ve got more of an “open mind” as you’ve ripened. But really you’re just biding your time and waiting for the day that they’re through sowing their wild oats, want to settle down, and start a family. But will it be with you? Well, you’re still fairly attractive, but not like you were when you were younger. There’s also something else. You also have a lot of bitterness and emotional baggage that starts to grow bigger and uglier as you age and become more desperate. Ultimately, it seems like too much trouble. Soon you’re getting that invitation to be a bridesmaid at your younger sister’s wedding. You watch “Sex and the City” for inspiration, but even those wacky gals are settling down and having babies. Well, that’s OK. There’s always 300 pound mamas boys and divorced guys with restraining orders against them to pick from. Don’t worry, though. I still think you’re wonderful.

5 Stars THE book to change your life, it did mine!
Susan Page has manage to write a book that is so clear, persuasive, prescriptive and full of heart that it should be the Bible for anyone searching for love. I bought the book in March and read it, did the exercises, and examined my own needs and patterns. I began a serious search for The One and, believe it or not, I found him. Yes, I had to go out of state, and yes, I found an online search that worked better for me than [...], but without this book, I’m absolutely certain I would not have found the man of my dreams. I am now engaged and plan to marry in a year. Thank you, Susan!

2 Stars Not too reallistic
I have a friend who I consider “wonderful” and I can’t understand why she is still single. I got this book for her as a potential present but I never gave it to her, concerned of being offensive because of the title.

I started reading it, myself, and honestly, it takes pages and pages before finding something relatively useful. If you’re about to buy this book for yourself, I would recommend you to use the money and the time to do something that creates you some personal satisfaction. Finally, what you will show to other people and to yourself, is your ability to be a healthy, balanced and creative person. Desperation is not too attractive to other people, and I feel as though the book prepares you to go outside to chase “something”.

10 Stupid things women do to mess up our lives from Dr. Laura is more worth it. There are multiple examples of obviously not “wonderful” decisions that affect the day to day living of women, and she approaches self steam issues from a perspective that helps you to improve (and I would say, to be more attractive from an emotional perspective). I am not single and I consider myself very happy at the moment, even though, Dr Laura’s book has given me opportunities to think about better and more satisfactory ways to live my life.

Hopefully my review helps someone by proxy!

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I Kissed Dating Goodbye

While most Christians agree to seek purity and save sex for marriage, few have been given a blueprint for how that should affect their view of dating and love. In I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Joshua Harris exposes the “Seven Habits of Highly Defective Dating” and offers a realistic outline of how to have a biblical vision of marriage. Harris contends that one must begin with a new attitude, viewing love, purity, and singleness from God’s perspective rather than thinking that love and romance are to be enjoyed “solely for recreation.” In such well-named chapters as “Guarding Your Heart” and “What Matters at Fifty,” Harris encourages the reader to look at one’s character rather than reveling in infatuation, to regard love as a truly selfless, biblical act rather than a feeling. He refutes the concept that we are victims of “falling in love” (that it is beyond our control), saying that “God wants us to seek guidance from scriptural truth, not feeling. Smart love looks beyond personal desires and the gratification of the moment. It looks at the big picture: serving others and glorifying God.” Before you roll your eyes, moaning that this sounds terribly unromantic, know that Harris does a superb job of couching his convictions in the sincere belief that if we are purposeful in our singleness and date with integrity, a fulfilled marriage awaits us–in God’s timing. –Jill Heatherly

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3 Stars Good for “discussion”
I read this book many years ago and after having lived a little in the realm of romance, resulting in the marriage to the love of my dreams, I can reflect more on this book. I notice there are a wide range of views on this book. I can’t help but agree with both sides on various points. It is true that many of Harris’ points can’t be proven by biblical support, yet on a similar note, Harris’ heart on the whole matter is driven by a deep conviction to honor Christ in “every” area of his life.

That being said, I can’t endorse this book as the “guide” to dating nor the book that “settles” the issue. Although some would argue that Harris never intends this, my impression from the book by his staunch black and white answers may prove otherwise. Nevertheless, I will ALWAYS recommend this book for the sake of good conversation. It is, as one reviewer has posted, a great “starting point” for the realm of dating. Harris’ book does well to make us think about dating and its purpose and try and reflect on our motives and goals with such an action. This, in and of itself, is worth the read of the book. So if you want to read a book that will help you ponder elements of dating you never had, or rattle the cage a little, pick it up and read it.

3 Stars Good for what it is.
I came across this book by accident in a used bookstore fairly recently. I read it in a few days and was surprised at this young man’s insight into the world of dating. Although I do not agree with many things Joshua Harris writes about in his book, I do think he brings up some very important issues.

Read with caution and make sure to keep an open mind as no other views or opinions are offered in this book, which reads like a collection of sermons.

4 Stars Great truths to be carefully implemented…
Those of us that get so offended by the nature of the book are the ones who have deeply indulged in its antithesis. THe reality is, there are some VERY GOOD points that are made about dating and relationships. Don’t be so quick to throw it out or to even devour every word as sacred truth. Take the insights and apply them as the Holy Spirit directs you. I CAN tell you from experience that the students that I have worked with, who HAVE applied many or MOST of these principles, have had much more successful relationships than the ones who did not. I admittedly had written this book of as bunk for many years until I read through and realized that there was a deep regret for not having realized these truths earlier.

A great book, to be applied by each reader as it fits his/her own situation. The overall truths should be applied but the extent depends on the individual. Don’t make the mistake of writing it off before you’ve finished it.

5 Stars Outstanding
If you looking for a godly alternative to the broken down dating system we have in our culture today, than this book is for you! An easy read. An awesome answer to the what the world is shoving down the throats of our children as the only acceptable way of meeting their future spouse, which of course, is modern dating.

5 Stars Excellent book
This book brings a completely different perspective to the subject of dating. I would recommend it to anyone who is struggling with this issue.

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Dating The Divorced Man Sort Through the Baggage to Decide If Hes Right for You

At some point in your life, it’s likely that you will date a separated or divorced man. With today’s divorce rate, it is almost impossible not to. However, these men are not like the typical single bachelors you’re used to dating. These men come with numerous unexpected challenges, such as children, difficult ex-wives, substantial financial obligations, and unresolved grief, guilt, or anger. Dating the Divorced Man will prepare you so you can:

• Detect problems early on–and tackle them together
• Identify problems that “come with the territory” vs. those that are dealbreakers
• Evaluate whether marriage is ultimately the right choice for you

Filled with real-life insight and advice, Dating the Divorced Man offers the tools you need to decide if you can deal with the issues and find long-term happiness–or if it’s time to say goodbye.

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5 Stars Good book
Nice info. If you are dating with separated,divorcing or divorced man. This book is really make you clear understanding what situation you are. and what next. And you will know whether wasting your time dating this man.

4 Stars Time Saver for the Ladies
I found this book’s Red Flag guides and tables to be very helpful and may have saved me a year or two of pointless dating in the past. Hartman has some excellent points about how a divorce can destroy a man’s life from A – Z. I also liked the distinction between a divorcing Man and a divorced man. Hartman has quite a few good concepts and I would have liked to see more dialogue examples (like the Mars & Venus books) on how to put concept into reality. If you’re frequently dating divorced men (or women) I think this would be an excellent read to know what you’re in for.

5 Stars Excellent
This book is excellent! I just wish I had read it before getting involved with a divorced man for 4 years. I think I would have decided then that being with a divorced man with two teenage girls wasn’t right for me. I still feel empowered and will have some insight if I continue to date in the future.

5 Stars Single in LA
I’ve read this book twice and I wanted to write a review because I found reading other women’s experiences with a book and applying their personal situations to it very helpful. This book is not as breezy and whimsical as other self-help books on dating a “divorced/divorcing” man with kids, but it is very thorough, sympathetic and right on about a lot of things that we women go through (in my case, dating a “divorcing” man, which is the riskiest of them all!) Before I read the book, I was mostly confused, insecure, and frustrated about always coming second to his kids and his divorce; always waiting for the phone to ring and not sure whether I could have a weekend getaway or a holiday with my man. I wanted more – but felt I couldn’t demand more because I didn’t want to add more pressure in his life. And when I just didn’t care and went on with my life (work, friends, hobbies and travels) I felt guilty! I felt I was abandoning him, during the time when he needed me the most. Wrong! Rather than feeling bad all the time, the book taught me how to be true to myself and put “me” first. To put enough distance to see where his divorce ends up (not get involved with all the messy details…) and to not push things too soon. Compared to other self help books on the subject, the author never wants you to become second best; to be disrespected at any time or to be taken for granted…you should be treated an equal, especially once the relationship takes a serious turn. Kids need parenting and time and effort, totally understandable. But you shouldn’t compromise your own needs for them. In a nutshell, the author gives women more value than what they feel they deserve. I will never forget her input/output notion: if the input far outweighs the output then maybe the relationship is not worth it. And if you will go through all the challenges and struggles of dating a divorced/divorcing man…he should be “fabulous” and totally worth it. This was great and helped me muddle through all the confusion.

5 Stars Puts you in the right headspace
This book covers the psychology of dating a divorced man and is spot on target at helping you discover what you need and if he can provide it. A great place to start your education into the world of family court. If you do decide to date him, or marry him, your next step would be my book, “Every Single Girl’s Guide To Her Future Husband’s Last Divorce,” which covers the legal and financial aspects and makes a perfect pairing with this book.

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Jessicas Guide to Dating on the Dark Side